Being Alone

Daily OM


A Relationship with Self
Being Alone

The most important relationship we have in our lives is with our selves, mind, body and spirit.


The most important relationship we have in our lives is with our selves. And even though we are the only ones who are present at every moment of our lives—from birth onward—this relationship can be the most difficult one to cultivate. This may be because society places such emphasis on the importance of being in a romantic partnership, even teaching us to set aside our own needs for the needs of another. Until we know ourselves, however, we cannot possibly choose the right relationship to support our mutual growth toward our highest potential. By allowing ourselves to be comfortable with being alone, we can become the people with whom we want to have a relationship.

Perhaps at no other time in history has it been possible for people to survive, and even thrive, while living alone. We can now support ourselves financially, socially, and emotionally without needing a spouse for survival in any of these realms. With this freedom, we can pursue our own interests and create fulfilling partnerships with friends, business partners, creative cohorts, and neighbors. Once we’ve satisfied our needs and created our support system, a mate then becomes someone with whom we can share the bounty of all we’ve created and the beauty we’ve discovered within ourselves.

As we move away from tradition and fall into more natural cycles of being in the world today, we may find that there are times where being alone nourishes us and other periods in which a partnership is best for our growth. We may need to learn to create spaces to be alone within relationships. When we can shift our expectations of our relationships with ourselves and others to opportunities for discovery, we open ourselves to forge new paths and encounter uncharted territory. Being willing to know and love ourselves, and to find what truly makes us feel deeply and strongly, gives us the advantage of being able to attract and choose the right people with whom to share ourselves, whether those relationships fall into recognizable roles or not. Choosing to enjoy being alone allows us to fully explore our most important relationship—the one with our true selves.

Hi Wind-Dancer, I enjoyed your post. I totally enjoy my alone time, and actually make time for it, I arrive at work an hour early, listen and sing and dance to music. what a wonderful way to start the day.

If I could support myself better I would much prefer to "be alone" there are many times I want to be by myself in the house, but it never seems to work out that way A good post Wind-Dancer, and certainly food for thought.

I enjoy Alone time i used to feel Like the Hermit on the Tarot card, I Loved being Alone & Exploring my mind through Meditation, that it became a Journey for me.

I would like to find more Alone time and do some more exploring soon. I can certainly see how Being Alone & Exploring within could help with a partner relationship. With Patience it could be possible to draw the right person to you, Wonderful things come with Patience.

Many Blessings

I have always been alone, even when I am around other people. To me I am lonelier in a crowd, even a small one, than I am when I am by myself. What I like about this message board is that it is quiet and peaceful and that the focus is on quality instead of quantity. This message board is a refreshing step out of the hustle, bustle, and conflict of the normal message board world.

Good post Wind-Dancer!

Sunmystic we share so much the same. It was just like reading about me.

Vanilla2 wrote:Sunmystic we share so much the same. It was just like reading about me.

We are probably twin souls, it has happened before. Being less alone when one is alone creates some unique challenges in a, generally speaking, socially inclined world.