30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself......

30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

When you stop chasing the wrong things you give
the right things a chance to catch you.

As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new
beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Nothing
could be closer to the truth. But before you can begin this process of
transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding
you back.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life
   is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of
   you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.
   You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to
   someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not
   the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the
   ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true
   friends.
   
2. Stop running from your problems. – Face them head
   on. No, it won’t be easy. There is no person in the world capable of
   flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to
   be able to instantly solve problems. That’s not how we’re made. In
   fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. Because
   that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt,
   and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds
   us into the person we become.
   
3. Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone
   else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve
   only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we
   can take is to be honest with ourselves. Read The Road Less Traveled.
   
4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. –
   The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving
   someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help
   others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow
   your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
   
5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like
   everyone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be
   smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you.
   Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people
   will love the real you.
   
6. Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
   
7. Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing
   something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive
   than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures behind it,
   and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting
   the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
   
8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may
   love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how
   things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the
   person and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have
   struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your
   mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the
   power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has
   ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to
   come.
   
9. Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things
   we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that really
   satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our
   passions.
   
10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness.
    – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be
    happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have to
    create stability in your own life first before you can share it with
    someone else. Read Stumbling on Happiness.
    
11. Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll
    create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. Evaluate
    situations and take decisive action. You cannot change what you refuse
    to confront. Making progress involves risk. Period! You can’t make
    it to second base with your foot on first.
    
12. Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever
    feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great
    opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which
    means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
    
13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons.
    – Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to
    be in bad company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to
    be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for
    the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
    
14. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work.
    – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you
    meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you.
    But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
    
15. Stop trying to compete against everyone else. –
    Don’t worry about what others doing better than you. Concentrate on
    beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU
    and YOURSELF only.
    
16. Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the
    art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. Ask
    yourself this: “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”
    
17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. –
    Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a
    direction that is meant for you. You may not see or understand
    everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. But reflect
    back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past. You’ll
    often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state
    of mind, or situation. So smile! Let everyone know that today you are
    a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.
    
18. Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with
    hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the
    people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is
    okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my
    happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace,
    liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not just for other
    people, it’s for you too. If you must, forgive yourself, move on and
    try to do better next time.
    
19. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
    
20. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right.
    
21. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break.
    – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it.
    If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re
    getting. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
    
22. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. –
    Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover
    they were the big things. The best portion of your life will be the
    small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to
    you.
    
23. Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done. Read Getting Things Done.
    
24. Stop following the path of least resistance. –
    Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something
    worthwhile. Don’t take the easy way out. Do something extraordinary.
    
25. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. –
    It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t always have to
    pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that
    everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what other
    people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed
    your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile
    again.
    
26. Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The
    extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to
    which you take responsibility for your life. When you blame others for
    what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others
    power over that part of your life.
    
27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing
    so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out. But making one
    person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but
    their world. So narrow your focus.
    
28. Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip
    tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy. One way to
    check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this
    question: “Will this matter in one year’s time? Three years? Five
    years?” If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.
    
29. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. –
    Focus on what you do want to happen. Positive thinking is at the
    forefront of every great success story. If you awake every morning
    with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life
    today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.
    
30. Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad
    you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone
    somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking
    about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that
    everyone else is missing.
    

Photo by: Rob Brucker
a friend posted this on facebook, I loved it, I found it on the internet and reposted for you all to see (-:

There is a lot of great wisdom in there Linda, a wonderful mantra to have in mind. Thank you for posting that.



~*~



Be well

Elrick

I find I am guilty of many of the above, so thank you so much for posting this Linda. A great way to start the new year with. Although nothing wrong with following these examples, as of right now, today.

Linda wrote:30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

When you stop chasing the wrong things you give
the right things a chance to catch you.

As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new
beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Nothing
could be closer to the truth. But before you can begin this process of
transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding
you back.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life
   is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of
   you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.
   You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to
   someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not
   the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the
   ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true
   friends.
   
2. Stop running from your problems. – Face them head
   on. No, it won’t be easy. There is no person in the world capable of
   flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them. We aren’t supposed to
   be able to instantly solve problems. That’s not how we’re made. In
   fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall. Because
   that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt,
   and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds
   us into the person we become.
   
3. Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone
   else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve
   only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we
   can take is to be honest with ourselves. Read The Road Less Traveled.
   
4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. –
   The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving
   someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help
   others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow
   your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
   
5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like
   everyone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be
   smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you.
   Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people
   will love the real you.
   
6. Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
   
7. Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing
   something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive
   than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures behind it,
   and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting
   the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
   
8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may
   love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how
   things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the
   person and things that are right for us. We all make mistakes, have
   struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your
   mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the
   power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has
   ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to
   come.
   
9. Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things
   we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that really
   satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our
   passions.
   
10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness.
    – If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be
    happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have to
    create stability in your own life first before you can share it with
    someone else. Read Stumbling on Happiness.
    
11. Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll
    create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. Evaluate
    situations and take decisive action. You cannot change what you refuse
    to confront. Making progress involves risk. Period! You can’t make
    it to second base with your foot on first.
    
12. Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever
    feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Because most great
    opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which
    means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
    
13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons.
    – Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to
    be in bad company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to
    be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for
    the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
    
14. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work.
    – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you
    meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you.
    But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.
    
15. Stop trying to compete against everyone else. –
    Don’t worry about what others doing better than you. Concentrate on
    beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between YOU
    and YOURSELF only.
    
16. Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the
    art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. Ask
    yourself this: “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”
    
17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. –
    Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a
    direction that is meant for you. You may not see or understand
    everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. But reflect
    back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past. You’ll
    often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state
    of mind, or situation. So smile! Let everyone know that today you are
    a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.
    
18. Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with
    hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the
    people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is
    okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my
    happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace,
    liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not just for other
    people, it’s for you too. If you must, forgive yourself, move on and
    try to do better next time.
    
19. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
    
20. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right.
    
21. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break.
    – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it.
    If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re
    getting. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
    
22. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. –
    Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover
    they were the big things. The best portion of your life will be the
    small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to
    you.
    
23. Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done. Read Getting Things Done.
    
24. Stop following the path of least resistance. –
    Life is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something
    worthwhile. Don’t take the easy way out. Do something extraordinary.
    
25. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. –
    It’s okay to fall apart for a little while. You don’t always have to
    pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that
    everything is going well. You shouldn’t be concerned with what other
    people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed
    your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile
    again.
    
26. Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The
    extent to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to
    which you take responsibility for your life. When you blame others for
    what you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others
    power over that part of your life.
    
27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing
    so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out. But making one
    person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but
    their world. So narrow your focus.
    
28. Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip
    tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy. One way to
    check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this
    question: “Will this matter in one year’s time? Three years? Five
    years?” If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.
    
29. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. –
    Focus on what you do want to happen. Positive thinking is at the
    forefront of every great success story. If you awake every morning
    with the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life
    today, and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.
    
30. Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad
    you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone
    somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking
    about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that
    everyone else is missing.
    

Photo by: Rob Brucker
a friend posted this on facebook, I loved it, I found it on the internet and reposted for you all to see (-:

What you have posted works for me one's life would be a lot simpler if they followed what you have posted above! ("Good Post!" should actually read "Great Post!")

As from today, number one is going to be my first priority.

Vanilla2 wrote:As from today, number one is going to be my first priority.

I am so ornery that the wrong people quit hanging out with me and because I do not know any of the right people nobody hangs out with me

Ah man!

I have been with one wrong person, far, far too long. Think I am now damaged. I have to keep focussed and strong, not an easy task.

Vanilla2 wrote:I have been with one wrong person, far, far too long. Think I am now damaged. I have to keep focussed and strong, not an easy task.

Just watch that folks don't tell you that it is character building, folks doing that can really cause confusion

Great post Linda, thanks for this

30 great reminders of how the little self runs the show. 30 great insights into YOU running the show. 30 great examples of opening our eyes to life and be free of the madness. What a wonderful gift.

Ekman, yes you have hit the nail on its head, as the well known expression goes. Re: " madness ", there sure is enough of that in this splendid world of ours.

Hi Vanilla2, that's what it feels like to me from madness to peace or madness to commonsense which isn't that common amongst humanity. I am grateful for my time in madness for driving me to the place I now reside. Life is really such a simple game, not easy at times but simple and everything is in perfect harmony, including the madness, and nothing is a big deal at the human level when I open my eyes to the simple game of life. By openining my eyes I get to see the most painful of experiences with certain individuals as a beautiful set-up for us to move deeper into Divine love, our own hearts, we are all helping each other in this way. Forgiving has been a great tool or way of being at these times but for me in the ultimate sense there is nothing to forgive, forgive you for the experiences that brought me to a place of love--I thankyou, I honour you, i love you. Many of us when we leave this planet will realize after it's too late how we took it all too seriously but the game isn't over for them until they get to experience the love of God and become absorbed in it. Life is magical, wonderful, i have not the words to say it, all I can do is open my arms to love and let love flow through me.

thank you

I can say that i am also guilty of many of those myself, one that stood out to me was

Linda wrote:23 Stop trying to make things perfect.

there's always room for change within myself. I know striving for perfection is something that's an impossible task, but maybe what perfection actually is what we all are right now inside.

Perfection is a word that can help us motivate, and it has helped me to strive for perfection but in all actuality perfection is not something you can achieve on a physical plane when all may seem perfect, there is always a let down. Nothing can stay perfect unless someone understands what perfection actually is on a physical plane, and i have yet to figure that one out.

Maybe its something we all are right now in this moment. I do know that inside each one of us is goodness, whether it shows on the outside or not is what many judge, as good or bad (Holy or Evil) but what i tend to look at is when each person is born there's a pureness within.

I feel pureness is always apart of us, some as they age from child to adolescent to adult the Beauty within a person can be difficult to see. I am at fault many times in my life for this, do i strive to change? Yes! Do i strive for perfection? i used to but realize that we are all perfect deep down, and the only way to express perfection is through the pureness within, which i like to call the spirit/soul. Learning to express that Beauty can be difficult for many including myself.

Everything in life is an Experience & Knowledge you Live, Learn, & Grow.... Etc...

Many Blessings